“Who is a True Gentleman?”- our patriarchal society has a very well-defined set of rule a real “mard” must abide by. He must not cry, he should be the hero who saves every damsel in distress, and someone whose courteous attitude is judged by him adhering to preconceived notions of being a gentleman in public. Do you find this definition to be too restrictive and stereotypical? Well, so does actor Ayushmann Khurrana and thus he has come up with a proper definition.
Of late, Ayushmann Khurrana has been challenging the societal construct that has the above mentioned definitive guidelines when it comes to masculinity. Be it his “Vicky Donor”, “Shubh Mangal Savdhan”, “Dream Girl” or his currently running at the theatres “Bala”, the actor is known for choosing films which attempt to question the very basis of society. And now, Ayushmann has shared a video titled as ‘What makes a true Gentleman?’, ahead of the International Men’s Day on 19th November.
As we already know, Ayushmann is known for his honest and earnest portrayal of the characters he plays on the silver screen. Armed with that same simple grace and thoughtful aura, the actor put across an important message to society in the video- to let go of the stereotypes defining men.
The video is part of a men’s grooming campaign and we see Ayushmann Khurrana dressed in casuals with a blazer and well-groomed hair as he adds his charm to the words of screenwriter Gaurav Solanki, one of the writers the actor’s film “Article 15.”
“You know, mard ka ek stereotype hai, badi macho wali hype hai. Wo ghar chalaega, wo ladki ko bachaega. Wo roega nahi, weak nahi hoga,” Ayushmann Khurrana began the video with this sad yet true line. He went on to add how he doesn’t find this definition right. He shares how he didn’t want to a hero or a saviour, he just wanted to be a man who is allowed to cry and sing, doesn’t know how to knot a tie but knows how to cook food.
Ayushmann also supported homosexuality, saying that a man should be able to choose anything between pink and Pink Floyd. Such things don’t describe who is a true gentleman as “you’re the most powerful as long as there lives a gentleman in you.”
So, what is your definition of a ‘true gentleman”?