In a recent interview, Selena Gomez not only talked about her past relationships but also discussed her mental health and how she has changed over the past two years.
Almost 29, Selena Gomez started a makeup line named Rare Beauty, which uses a part of it’s sales to help with mental health issues like anxiety and depression. Also, the title of her upcoming album is Rare. The Love You Like a Song singer spoke about how DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) helped her the most with her daily mental health, and she also shared her experience of the treatment.
She confidently spoke about her experiences and said,”I’ve studied DBT, which is Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. I’ve been to four treatment centers. I think in mental health, I never understood the stigma until I went to my first treatment center, because that was years ago.”
Selena also discussed how the Tabloids had been mean to her when she was in Arizona Rehab center back in 2014.
“But then there was a photograph that got out, and it’s wild to see how mean they were. It was like: ‘She’s the next this person, she’s the childhood star,’ whatever. And: ‘She’s doing drugs.’ They’re saying all this stuff about me. I’m watching all of that change, slowly but surely, because now, if any media outlet made fun of me, they’re the ones that look like the a**hole because we don’t tolerate that anymore. It’s actually crazy that I’m watching it happen, even though I know we have so much more to do. And I have goals. I want to put this as a curriculum into schools. I feel like I practice [DBT] every day…And then I also love being in the studio. Because the first hour I’m in a studio, I just talk. It’s like therapy. You just go in and you share your heart,” she continued.
Selena also said that she thinks most of her relationships have been “cursed”
Selena has a big list of exes, which includes names like Nick Jonas, The Weeknd, DJ Zedd, and, the most popular of all her love affairs, Justin Bieber, with whom she had an on and off relationship for eight years (2010-2018).
About her past relationships, she said,“I think most of my experiences in relationships have been cursed. I’ve been way too young to be exposed to certain things when I was in relationships. I guess I needed to find what was that word for me, because I felt so less than in past relationships, and never really felt equal. And so that word to me — when I first heard it [used in the single ‘Rare’] with Nolan, one of the writers, I just said this is what I want to feel about myself. So it wasn’t even necessarily like: ‘Oh, I feel that way, let me sing it.’ It was almost like: ‘Actually, I need to feel that way about myself.’”
Selena also gave a strong message to people dealing with mental health issues, “Honestly, I never want to be a person that’s like: ‘I got medication, it’s fine now. I do believe in medication, obviously, therapy—all of these things I’ve done to try and make myself better. But my advice isn’t going to be: ‘Oh, you’re going to get over it.’ It’s actually an everyday practice. So if I’m thinking about something, I want to catch it before then. Or if I’ve been alone and isolated for too long, I’ll be like: ‘Oh wait, I need to be around people I love.’ And like I said, I also go to therapy. You can find ways to live in it. But once you understand it, the fear of you admitting that you have something goes away.”
Selena also discussed that how grateful she is for the change she noticed in herself in the past two years and the growth she has had. She stated, “I am beyond grateful that my loved ones were really safe during the pandemic. And I’m just really happy with who I am. I’m grateful that as I step into 29–even just two years ago–I was different. It’s only gotten better, and that’s kind of what people say, you know, when you get older, you feel a bit more confident with who you are. I don’t know if that’s gonna be every year for me. Maybe it is. But I just feel like I’m constantly growing in the right direction.”